ugh not gonna go into it on tumblr dot com but let me just say for your sake, for all our sakes:
being bound and determined during the ending of a relationship to ~shoulder your part of the blame~ and ~not become bitter or toxic~ and ~not sound petty~ and do everything properly & dignity & integrity & all that good stuff
it is good stuff, but oh it can go way beyond being ~healthy & mature, it can totally turn into something else, a very insidious something else
like it can become an extension of the same “everything is ok! it’s still ok! it’s fine! clinging to the scraps!” behavior
the kind that doesn’t let you acknowledge the truth or heal or say no no not that never, ever
the kind of ~be good, and everything will be ok~ behavior that had you turning a blind eye for years
and blaming yourself for the clear cruelty of another
and excusing it, enduring it ~bravely~ until you are the walking dead
and grasping at any tiny shadow of a memory of any kind of goodness that once was so that you can falsely magnify it in order to crowd out the very dark truth

and that’s all I’m going to ever say here about that, and I’m saying it for your sake as well as my own, and I’m never doing that again, I don’t have a drop of it left in me, I want to live and love and strive and work, and it might not always be easy but it has nothing to do with dragging yourself along like a beaten fucking dog. Get out there sisters and brothers and LIVE

Joanna Newsom- clam crab cockle cowrie

Hello all-
I’m home sick today but feeling better already having slept most of yesterday and this morning. I am listening to this song and feeling particularly tender hearted. Depending on how I feel post-coffee, I may wander a couple of blocks for some errands. It is a beautiful day. This weekend I am making tea from hops. Be well! xo

The church is not only the agent of God’s mercy; it is also the object of God’s mercy. As the body of Christ, it is redeemed by Jesus Christ. But the church encompasses sinners in its bosom and therefore must be purified time and again in order to be able to stand pure and holy (Eph 5:23). Consequently, the church must self-critically and repeatedly ask itself whether it actually lives up to what it is and should be. Additionally, just as Jesus Christ did, so too we are supposed to deal with the flaws and failings of the church, not in a self-righteous but in a merciful way. We must, however, be clear about one thing: a church without charity and mercy would no longer be the church of Jesus Christ.

Cardinal Walter Kasper - The Message of Mercy

He does an amazing job of laying out why the Church should let divorced and remarried Catholics take communion. This guy keeps giving me reasons to want him as the next Pope.

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It is not possible to be truly balanced in one’s views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple’s problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn’t abuse.

  • "Why Does He Do That: Inside The Mind of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft

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Chris BurdenThrough the Night Softly, 1973
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In 1973 Chris Burden conceives the work Through the Night Softly, to be inserted during 10 seconds amongst the regular Tv advertisements, “4 times a week for 4 weeks”.In the original video, longer than the tv clip, he held his hands behind his back and crawled through about 50 feet of glass in Los Angeles pavement at night time.
See the video here.
 

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Chris Burden
Through the Night Softly, 1973

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In 1973 Chris Burden conceives the work Through the Night Softly, to be inserted during 10 seconds amongst the regular Tv advertisements, “4 times a week for 4 weeks”.

In the original video, longer than the tv clip, he held his hands behind his back and crawled through about 50 feet of glass in Los Angeles pavement at night time.

See the video here.

 

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Is this an earthquake or did a wolf jump on my bed?

4.0 earthquake. I’m a grown woman in a 2nd floor studio right outside the city yet apparently I’m like “????!! Idk magic wolf??!!!”